I myself am an extremely competitive person. Just ask anyone who has ever played any sport with me. I HATE to lose. Hate it. I am not just talking about skiing, the sport I have competed in since I was 5. I am talking about soccer, basketball, volleyball, wally-ball, anything. If it is my first time playing a particular game, or I don’t play said game very often, guess what? I still care an insane amount. Even if I am downright awful at whatever I am playing I still put 500% into it so I don’t lose.
And then there is the other side of the spectrum. People who play for the fun of the game and don’t mind if they win or lose. Points don’t really matter because its just a game after all and when it is over it won’t really matter either way. Which do you think is the correct mind set?
A few years back I was having a conversation with the mens head US Ski Team coach, Sasha Rearick. I was all about getting the inside scoop so I asked him one very pointed question. “What does it take to be a champion?” Among the 5 things he listed one of them was the competitive spirit. To completely abhor losing. Well, I thought at the time, at least I’ve got that one in the bag!
On the other hand, some people really hate playing sports with me. It’s all good and fun at the beginning but if we fall behind in the score I get quiet. I get serious. The tension that reverberates off of me is palpable, I swear to god. I want to win and if people are messing around I don’t turn out to be the sweetest of souls just then. Hahaha, I can laugh about it after, (about 10 minutes to two hours after), but when I am in the heat of the moment it could get ugly. Which leads me to the question, is it too much? Am I getting so far into the game that I am making what is inherently suppose to be fun, not so anymore?
Our group is chock-full of competitive people. How could there not be? We are 12 elite athletes looking to become professional. So when we get together for a game of… saaaay, wally-ball for instance, it does at times lose that “fun” factor. (Unless we win of course, then its a lot of fun.) But there are those who do it for the fun and those who do it to win. Words are exchanged, I start getting “serious”, and tempers start to flare. I start cussing at my teammates to “get their f-ing heads into the game” and one of mine yells at one of theirs saying, “no way that hit the ceiling!!” It is quite the show to say the least but could we even change our nature if we tried? Would we want to? I kind of love the way I am even if I take it harder than most when I lose. The competitive spirit in me is so intense and I love the competition even more, I think, than winning.
Either way, there is no doubt that the opposites in this scenario clash, sometimes to an extreme. Which mind set is better? Who wins and loses this argument? We may never know.
PS- The wally-ball match was won, 2 games to 1 today incase you were wondering. Devin, Ty, Tyler and I RULE! The other team… not so much. Hahaha
Umm you are not that much fun when I beat you in tennis. Just saying, Its just a game man
Get real sis, you have never beat me in tennis
I think a balance is needed here. You can still have drive to be the best but have fun in the moment
I think the competitive fire can help you do the necessary work, and to achieve the necessary focus. It can hurt you if you try to make speed happen, instead of letting it happen. Skiing is such a subtle sport. You know what I mean?
Can you hit the ball over the net these days?
But seriously, I know exactly the feeling. And I think it is necessary to achieve greatness in any aspect of your life to always want to be the best and desire the goal more than anything. However, when I throw my skis in the woods, or slam my badminton racket on the ground, I’m told that I’m not much fun to be around. So there needs to be some sort of inner control and balance. Be graceful in defead.
I agree with all of that, (Bob, Fred and Chelsea). Of course you must be graceful in defeat but to be complacent is to lack drive to further your success. It is sort of a curious thing but I think even when you have success you should (usually) always shoot for larger goals which in a sense means you are never truly satisfied. And so goes the cycle of competition
Absolutely, it would be a shame to be satisfied. We always need to improve. We always need to aim higher. It is important to understand and appreciate success without however, being satisfied with a certain physical or intellectuel state.
Couldn’t have said it better myself, mon ami
personally – I love that. I read an old post of yours last year (?) when I was trolling Chelsea. In that post you were still “in it” and the writing in that post was so focused about what ever race it was that I read it out loud to my daughter and husband. Don’t throw your skis like Fred, they are expensive and you need them, but leaving everything you’ve got on the mountain when you race, well that rocks.
Thanks for the words Cailin! I hope I am slowly starting to figure it out. Only time will tell!
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On my- I abhor losing, I abhor my kids losing….one would think one of us would be an Olympian by now!